The Rules of Love and Logic

By Jim Fay

RULE #1

Adults set firm limits in loving ways without anger, lecture, or threats.

RULE #2

When a child causes a problem the adult hands it back in loving ways

  1. In a loving way, the adult holds the child accountable for solving his/her problems in a way that does not make a problem for others.
  2. Children are offered choices with limits.
  3. Adults use enforceable statements.
  4. Adults provide delayed/extended consequences.
  5. The adult's empathy is "locked in" before consequences are delivered.

 

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