Self–Concept Builders and StealersBy Dr. Charles Fay
|Focus on their children's strengths.||Focus on their weaknesses.|
|Expect their children to work for most of the things they want.||Give their children everything.|
|Set loving limits and expect their children to behave.||Are afraid to set limits.|
|Make discipline look easy.||Show frustration and make it look hard.|
|Show their children that arguing and manipulation doesn't work.||Get sucked into arguments and power struggles.|
|Guide their children to own and solve the problems the children create.||Rescue or punish.|
|Avoid lectures and repeated warnings.
||Use lectures and repeated warnings often.|
|Love their kids for who they are.
||Love their kids for what they do.|
©2001 Charles Fay, Ph.D.
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