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"Words will NEVER Hurt Me"

In Sally Ogden's book you'll find the tools that will allow your child to feel empowered, relaxed, and in control. Read More

"Didn't I Tell You To Take Out the Trash?!" (CD)

This audio will help you end arguments and fights with your kids over chores. Really!!! This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

"Didn't I Tell You To Take Out the Trash?!" (MP3 download)

This audio will help you end arguments and fights with your kids over chores. Really!!! This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

"If they push your button, don't let it ring your bell!"

This audio CD is designed for parents who want to keep their kids from being the targets of bullies. The techniques introduced will help to diffuse the power of bullies, retain the dignity of the victim, and stop the avalanche of despair that can occur from being bullied. Read More

"No Thanks, I Just Had a Banana!"

Sally Ogden, a veteran classroom teacher and national consultant, teaches how to respond to bullies, criticism, and cruelty, as well as how to avoid being manipulated while at the same time maintaining one's self-esteem. Read More

9 Essential Skills for the Love and Logic Classroom (Workbook)

To order additional workbooks, please call us at 800-338-4065.

Save 10% when you order 25 or more.
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9 Essential Skills for the Love and Logic Classroom - UPDATED VERSION!

Our teacher training curriculum offers low stress strategies for highly successful educators. Read More

Ages 7 - 12 Parenting Package - A 15% discount over retail (Parenting with Love and Logic in book form)

This Package contains resources that will help reduce your stress and make parenting fun again. Parenting with Love and Logic is available as a CD or Book in this package. Read More

Ages 7 - 12 Parenting Package - A 15% discount over retail (Parenting with Love and Logic in CD form)

This Package contains resources that will help reduce your stress and make parenting fun again. Parenting with Love and Logic is available as a Book or CD in this package. Read More

Allowing Kids to Choose Success (MP3 download)

Kids can choose to fail, or they can choose success. In this audio Dr. Foster Cline shows you how to help them choose success. Read More

Angry and Oppositional Students

In this live presentation, Dr. Charles Fay gives you long-term solutions rather than temporary bandages to prevent school violence. Read More

Avoiding Power Struggles with Kids (CD)

Do you have a stubborn, strong-willed child who constantly tries to pull you into arguments and power struggles? This audio will give you techniques to handle the situations. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Avoiding Power Struggles with Kids (MP3 download)

Do you have a stubborn, strong-willed child who constantly tries to pull you into arguments and power struggles? This audio will give you techniques to handle the situations. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Becoming a Love and Logic Parent Curriculum

As of July 3, 2012 we will be replacing the Becoming a Love and Logic Parent Curriculum with a new parent training curriculum titled: Parenting the Love and Logic Way.

If you own the Becoming a Love and Logic Parent Curriculum we will continue to provide support with direct access to Jim and Charles as well as workbooks and the replacement of key components as needed. Please contact us at 800-338-4065 with any questions. Read More

Becoming a Love and Logic Parent Curriculum (Bi-Lingual Training, DVD's and Workbooks in Spanish, Facilitator Guide in English)

This multimedia parent-training curriculum will allow you to teach Love and Logic to Spanish-speaking parents of kids of all ages. Read More

Becoming a Love and Logic Parent Workbook

To order additional workbooks, please call us at 800-338-4065.

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Calming the Chaos

With simple-to-learn and easy-to-apply Love and Logic techniques you can restore order and peacefulness to homes and classrooms while building positive and healthy relationships between parents, teachers, and children with ADD/ADHD. Read More

Certificate of Completion (Becoming a Love & Logic Parent Curriculum)

Package of 25 certificates signed by Dr. Charles Fay, for your attendees. Read More

Certificate of Completion (Early Childhood Parenting Made Fun! Curriculum)

Package of 25 certificates signed by Dr. Charles Fay, for your attendees. Read More

Certificate of Completion (Parenting the Love and Logic Way - Curriculum)

Package of 25 certificates signed by Dr. Charles Fay, for your attendees. Read More

Childhood Lying, Stealing and Cheating (MP3 download)

Foster W. Cline, M.D. shares techniques which improve communication, avoid confrontations and guide children towards trust and honesty. Read More

Como Ser Padres con Amor y Logica - Manual para Padres

To order additional workbooks, please call us at 800 338 4065.

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For more Love and Logic resources in Spanish, visit this page. Read More

Creating a Fear-Free and High Achieving Classroom (On-Demand Webinar)

(On-Demand Webinar) In a webinar where the time flies and you learn through stories, Sally Ogden will present tons of practical strategies for handling difficult people, power struggles and bullying. Read More

Creating a Love and Logic School Culture (book)

This new book offers a successful, time proven, step-by-step processes for creating a Love and Logic school. Read More

Creating Classrooms Where Teachers Love to Teach and Students Love to Learn (book)

The easy-to-read storytelling style of Dr. Bob Sornson's latest book captures the essence of using Love and Logic to build successful school cultures. Read More

Creating Classrooms Where Teachers Love to Teach and Students Love to Learn (e-Book)

The easy-to-read storytelling style of Dr. Bob Sornson's latest book captures the essence of using Love and Logic to build successful school cultures. Read More

Daring to Parent (MP3 download)

Join Foster W. Cline, M.D. on a lively, zany excursion through the madcap adventure of parenting. Read More

Denver, Colorado - November 13 - 15, 2014

Facilitators of the 9 Essential Skills for the Love and Logic Classroom® will spend three intense days with the developers of the curriculum. Read More

Denver, Colorado - October 2 - 4, 2014

Three days of intense training with the developers of Love and Logic® specifically for facilitators of the Love and Logic curricula. Read More

Developing Character in Teens (CD)

Join Jim Fay as he helps parents of teens address stress, chores, rebellion and much more! This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Developing Character in Teens (MP3 download)

Join Jim Fay as he helps parents of teens address stress, chores, rebellion and much more! This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Early Childhood Package - A 14% discount over retail (Magic for Early Childhood in book form)

It's never too early to use Love and Logic; it even works with the teeny tiny ones! Turn the terrible two's into terrific two's with this package. Magic for Early Childhood is available as a CD or Book in this package.
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Early Childhood Package - A 14% discount over retail (Magic for Early Childhood in CD form)

It's never too early to use Love and Logic; it even works with the teeny tiny ones! Turn the terrible two's into terrific two's with this package. Magic for Early Childhood is available as a CD or Book in this package. Read More

Early Childhood Parenting Made Fun! - Workbook

To order additional workbooks, please call us at 800-338-4065.

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Educator Package - A 17% discount over retail (Teaching with Love and Logic in book form)

The Educator Package has tools that will help you spend more time teaching and less time disciplining! Teaching with Love and Logic is available as a CD or Book in this package. Read More

Four Steps to Responsibility (CD)

Love and Logic teaches a four-step process for turning children's mistakes and misbehavior into opportunities for learning and building self-esteem. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Four Steps to Responsibility (MP3 download)

Love and Logic teaches a four-step process for turning children's mistakes and misbehavior into opportunities for learning and building self-esteem. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

From Bad Grades to a Great Life! (book)

In this book you'll hear why character and personal responsibility form the foundation of lasting academic and occupational achievement.  Read More

From Innocence to Entitlement (Book)

The legendary Jim Fay, and entitlement expert, Dawn Billings, take an in-depth look at the devastation and destruction of entitlement and provide techniques for preventing and curing the problem. This item is available as a CD or Book. Read More

From Innocence to Entitlement (CD)

The legendary Jim Fay, and entitlement expert, Dawn Billings, take an in-depth look at the devastation and destruction of entitlement and provide techniques for preventing and curing the problem. This item is available as a Book or CD. Read More

Gift Book Collection (Buy all three and save)

A great gift for friends and family! You'll save when you buy all three of these best-selling titles by Jim Fay - "Helicopters, Drill Sergeants, and Consultants," "I've Got What It Takes," and "Tickets to Success." Read More

Grandparenting with Love and Logic (Book)

Whether you are a grandparent raising your grandchildren, a grandparent who wants to be a positive influence in your grandchild’s life, or a parent who wants to ensure that the Love and Logic techniques you are using are also used by your children’s grandparents…this book is a must. Read More

Grief, Trauma, and Loss (MP3 download)

The information on this audio will give adults specific techniques on how to handle situations and help comfort children who are suffering. Read More

Healing Trust

This audio helps ease the feeling of hopelessness for birth parents, foster and adoptive parents, and professionals who work with children who have Reactive Attachment Disorder. Read More

Helicopters, Drill Sergeants and Consultants (Book)

This great introduction to Love and Logic will help you identify your parenting style, the message it sends, and stress-free techniques to help you become a "consultant" parent. This item is available as a CD, Book, or download. Read More

Helicopters, Drill Sergeants and Consultants (CD)

This great introduction to Love and Logic will help you identify your parenting style, the message it sends, and stress-free techniques to help you become a "consultant" parent. This item is available as a CD, Book, or download. Read More

Helicopters, Drill Sergeants and Consultants (MP3 download)

This great introduction to Love and Logic will help you identify your parenting style, the message it sends, and stress-free techniques to help you become a "consultant" parent. This item is available as a CD, Book, or download. Read More

Helping Kids Face Today's World (DVD)

Join Foster W. Cline, M.D., in this live presentation as he helps parents and educators understand, and deal with, the ever-changing challenges faced by today's kids. Read More

Home and School Strategies for Creating Respectful, Responsible Kids (On-Demand Webinar)

(On-Demand Webinar) Enjoy a presentation with Jim Fay without leaving the comfort of your home or classroom while learning simple and practical techniques to handle everyday challenges with kids. One hour of Graduate-level credit is available. Read More

Hope for Underachieving Kids

This DVD will help parents and educators lay the foundation that gives unmotivated, underachieving kids the desire to be successful. Read More

Hormones & Wheels

Parenting expert Jim Fay takes a lighthearted look at the often harrowing job of raising a teenager. Read More

How to Discipline Kids without Losing Their Love and Respect (Book)

We know you will enjoy beloved storyteller and parenting expert, Jim Fay, as he speaks to parents, educators, and community leaders about how to discipline kids without losing their love or respect. This item is available as a DVD or Book. Read More

How to Discipline Kids without Losing Their Love and Respect (DVD)

We know you will enjoy beloved storyteller and parenting expert, Jim Fay, as he speaks to parents, educators, and community leaders about how to discipline kids without losing their love or respect. This item is available as a Book or a DVD. Read More

How To Make the Best of Sibling Rivalry (DVD)

Learn how to turn those inevitable sibling spats into priceless learning opportunities for your kids, and re-claim the peaceful family life every responsible and loving parent deserves. Read More

How To Raise Kids Who Make Responsible Decisions When Nobody Is Watching (DVD)

Father and son parenting gurus, Jim Fay and Dr. Charles Fay, speak to the heart of middle America about the benefits of raising children the "Love and Logic" way. Read More

How to Teach Without Getting Punched

As the school environment changes, teachers need new skills presented here by Dr. Charles Fay. Read More

Humor, Play, and Laughter (Book)

Dr. Joseph Michelli's practical advice and humorous real-life stories will show you how to respond in more positive ways to even the most challenging parenting situations. Read More

I've Got What It Takes (Book)

Every parent wants their child to say, "I’ve got what it takes." The information in this book by Jim Fay will help you make that happen. Read More

Jim Fay One Liner Magnet

Great for your refrigerator, desk or file cabinet for a quick Love and Logic reminder. Read More

Keeping Cool When Parenting Heats Up (CD)

Dr. Charles Fay and long time facilitator, Leah Wells, share tips to stay calm even when your kids are pushing all your buttons. This item is available as a Download or CD. Read More

Keeping Cool When Parenting Heats Up (MP3 download)

Dr. Charles Fay and long time facilitator, Leah Wells, share tips to stay calm even when your kids are pushing all your buttons. This item is available as a CD or Download. Read More

Lending Library Package - A 18% discount over retail

Everything you need to share Love and Logic with others. Read More

Love and Logic Bookmarks (50 pack)

A small reminder of Love and Logic techniques. Read More

Love and Logic Early Childhood Parenting Made Fun!

This multimedia parent-training curriculum will allow you to teach Love and Logic to parents of young kids. Read More

Love and Logic for Heroes (MP3 download)

This audio download will help any family, especially military families that face challenging situations.

100% of all profits from the sale of this audio will be donated to the Wounded Warrior Project. Read More

Love and Logic Gift Certificate

Love and Logic Gift Certificate Helps raise responsible kids! Redeemable for any item. Never expires. Available in $20 increments (order as many as you want). Shipping charges may apply. Read More

Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood (Book)

Let Jim Fay and Charles Fay, Ph.D., help you start your child off on the right foot. The tools in Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood will give you the building blocks you need to create children who grow up to be responsible, successful teens and adults. This item is available as a CD or Book. Read More

Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood (CD)

Let Jim Fay and Charles Fay, Ph.D., help you start your child off on the right foot. The tools in Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood will give you the building blocks you need to create children who grow up to be responsible, successful teens and adults. This item is available as a Book or CD. Read More

Love and Logic Magic For Lasting Relationships

This book gives you a powerful toolbox filled with tried and true techniques that have proven useful to millions of people. It is guar­anteed to make a profound difference in the way you communicate with others in your life! Read More

Love and Logic Magic When Kids Drain Your Energy (CD)

Get ready to laugh, learn, and take the exhaustion and frustration out of parenting. The stories and examples on this audio will give parents techniques they can use in the heat of battle…without breaking a sweat.This item is available as a CD, or download. Read More

Love and Logic Magic When Kids Drain Your Energy (MP3 download)

Get ready to laugh, learn, and take the exhaustion and frustration out of parenting. The stories and examples on this audio will give parents techniques they can use in the heat of battle…without breaking a sweat. This item is available as a CD, or download. Read More

Love and Logic Magic When Kids Leave You Speechless

Jim Fay and Charles Fay, Ph.D., have put together a book of great comebacks every parent needs with actual words to use when kids say "It’s not fair!", "But why?", and many more! Read More

Love and Logic Magnet

Great for your refrigerator, desk or file cabinet for a quick Love and Logic reminder. Read More

Love and Logic Magnet (5 pk)

Great for your refrigerator, desk or file cabinet for a quick Love and Logic reminder. Read More

Love and Logic Money-isms

Love and Logic Money-isms is a collection of wise words that capture the powerful and inspiring truths about raising financially responsible kids. Read More

Love and Logic ON THE BUS (MP3 download)

Key Skills for Managing Behavior on the School Bus. Read More

Love and Logic Poster

This poster displays how to run your classroom, Love and Logic style. Read More

Love and Logic Powder Room Reader (Book)

America’s Parenting Experts Jim Fay and Charles Fay, Ph.D. have compiled this easy-to-read book containing tips for parents and educators from the Love and Logic "Insider Club" weekly emails. Read More

Love and Logic Solutions (CD's)

Unbeatable, On-the-Mark Answers to Parent's Most-Asked Questions About Raising Kids. This item is available as a CD, DVD, or download. Read More

Love and Logic Solutions (DVD)

Jim Fay will answer all your questions and help you end hassles about curfew, raise kids who can cope, discipline without anger and threats, and much more! This item is available as a CD, DVD, or download. Read More

Love and Logic Solutions (MP3 download)

Unbeatable, On-the-Mark Answers to Parent's Most-Asked Questions About Raising Kids. This item is available as a CD, DVD, or download. Read More

Love and Logic Solutions for Early Childhood (On-Demand Webinar)

(On-Demand Webinar) Enjoy a presentation with Dr. Charles Fay without leaving the comfort of your home as he provides time tested strategies for parents with children ages six and younger. This item is available as a download, CD or an On-Demand Webinar. Read More

Love and Logic Solutions for Kids with Special Needs (Book)

Dave Funk will teach you how to bring the best out of special needs kids. This informative book will answer all your questions plus more. Read More

Love and Logic Speed-E Solutions: Creating Effective Consequences (MP3 download)

In this practical audio, Dr. Charles Fay and Jedd Hafer discuss the factors that make consequences work - and sometimes not work when dealing with misbehavior. Charles and Jedd provide some simple, practical keys to making the Empathy + Consequences formula really work. Read More

Love and Logic Speed-E Solutions: Overwhelmed - A Message of Encouragement for Foster and Adoptive Parents (MP3 download)

In this special audio featuring Dr. Charles Fay and Foster-adoptive parent Jedd Hafer, you will hear words of encouragement and practical skills to help you get through the stress of taking care of kids in need. Read More

Love and Logic Speed-E Solutions: Potty Training (MP3 download)

This short, entertaining audio provides tips to have fun with your kids while teaching them to use the potty.
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Love and Logic Speed-E Solutions: Success with Chronically Disruptive Students (MP3 download)

This quick and informational audio presents Love and Logic techniques to handle repeat offenders (kids who are constantly misbehaving). Read More

Love and Logic Speed-E Solutions: Taming the Technology Monster in Your Home (MP3 download)

This quick and informational audio presents Love and Logic's stance on technology. You will learn tips to handle issues around computers and cell phones. Read More

Love and Logic Speed-E Solutions: Teaching Kids to Think and Solve Problems (MP3 download)

This short, entertaining audio provides tips to teach kids to own and solve problems. Read More

Love and Logic Speed-E Solutions: Teens and Driving (MP3 download)

In this honest and fun discussion, Dr. Charles Fay and Jedd Hafer (both are parents of ACTUAL teenagers) discuss practical steps parents can take to raise the odds that their teens will be safer, more responsible drivers. Read More

Love and Logic Speed-E Solutions: When Your Kids Get Defiant (MP3 download)

This quick and informational audio provides tips for handling defiant kids. Read More

Love and Logic Speed-E Solutions: When Your Spouse Has a Different Parenting Style (MP3 download)

This short, entertaining audio provides tips to help when you and your spouse/significant other/ex-spouse are not on the same parenting page. Read More

Love and Logic Strategies for Kids with Hurtful Pasts (On-Demand Webinar)

(On-Demand Webinar) This webinar will help parents, adoptive parents, foster parents, teachers and other professionals understand misbehavior that is often driven by hurt, and respond in effective ways. Read More

Love and Logic Teacher-isms

Join Jim and Dr. Charles Fay as they share their knowledge and humor of every-day like in the classroom. Read More

Love and Logic Tote Bag

Great for holding books, CDs—even your Love and Logic training programs! Read More

Love and Logic: Keys to Helping Kids Cope with Divorce (CD)

In this audio Dr. Charles Fay provides an honest yet compassionate look at how to avoid making common mistakes that create lasting scars. This item is available as an On-Demand Webinar, download or CD. Read More

Love and Logic: Keys to Helping Kids Cope with Divorce (MP3 download)

In this audio Dr. Charles Fay provides an honest yet compassionate look at how to avoid making common mistakes that create lasting scars. This item is available as an On-Demand Webinar, CD or download. Read More

Love and Logic: Keys to Helping Kids Cope with Divorce (On-Demand Webinar)

(On-Demand Webinar) Enjoy a presentation with Dr. Charles Fay without leaving the comfort of your home as he provides an honest yet compassionate look at how to avoid making common mistakes that create lasting scars.  Read More

Love and Logic: Solutions for Early Childhood (CD)

In this audio Dr. Charles Fay presents time tested strategies for parents with children ages six and younger. You'll learn the basics of the Love and Logic techniques for little ones, as well as specific tips for...This item is available as an On-Demand Webinar, download or CD. Read More

Love and Logic: Solutions for Early Childhood (MP3 download)

In this audio Dr. Charles Fay presents time tested strategies for parents with children ages six and younger. You'll learn the basics of the Love and Logic techniques for little ones, as well as specific tips for...This item is available as an On-Demand Webinar, CD or download. Read More

Love and Logicisms

This book is full of great information to help parents enjoy their kids. Read More

Love Me Enough to Set Some Limits (MP3 download)

Raise kids who can cope and get help for many parenting issues. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Marriage - Love and Logic (Book)

For over thirty years Foster and Hermie Cline have worked with other couples helping them build lasting relationships. They have taken the wisdom gained through all these years and put it into this effective and informative book. Read More

Meeting the Challenge

Some kids can challenge even the most patient parent or teacher. This book will help! Read More

Millionaire Babies or Bankrupt Brats?

Discover a win-win approach: Your children win because they will learn how to solve their own problems while gaining the confidence and capability they will need to meet life's financial challenges. And you’ll win because you will establish healthy control now without the guilt of having to rescue them later when they should be financially independent. Read More

Oh Great! What Do I Do Now? (CD)

This audio is guaranteed to lower your stress level and make life fun again. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Oh Great! What Do I Do Now? (MP3 download)

This audio is guaranteed to lower your stress level and make life fun again.This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Padres criando niños con problemas de salud y necesidades especiales

¡Críe niños felices y saludables! Descubra cómo captar la conversación y comunicarse con niños de todas las edades usando estas técnicas probadas y prácticas. Read More

Painless Parenting for the Preschool Years (DVD)

Parents of preschoolers have lots of questions…Charles Fay, Ph.D., has the answers to everything from bedtime to potty training to temper tantrums. Read More

Parenting Children with Health Issues

Whether a child struggles with weight problems, diabetes, cancer or any other health issue, parents will learn the essential parenting skills they need to help their child comply with medical requirements, cope well with health challenges, and live a hope-filled life. Read More

Parenting Children with Health Issues and Special Needs

Raise happy, healthier kids! Discover how to engage and communicate with children of all ages using these proven, practical techniques. Read More

Parenting Children with Special Medical Needs

Whether a child struggles with weight problems, diabetes, cancer or any other health issue, parents will learn the essential parenting skills they need to help their child comply with medical requirements, cope well with health challenges, and live a hope-filled life. Read More

Parenting Doesn't Have To Be Rocket Science (DVD)

Join Foster W. Cline, M.D. in this live presentation as he shows that it is not what parents say, but how they respond. The techniques in this video best insure that your children and your children's children are kids anyone would want to take off the shelf! Read More

Parenting Kids To Become the People Employers Really Want and America Desperately Needs! (Book)

This new book provides practical strategies for raising great people, great employees and great Americans. Read More

Parenting Teens with Love and Logic (Book)

Our changing times require new approaches to parenting teens. Parenting experts Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D., help you address the pressing subjects faced by today's teens. This item is available as a CD or Book. Read More

Parenting Teens with Love and Logic (Updated CD's)

Our changing times require new approaches to parenting teens. Parenting experts Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D., help you address the pressing subjects faced by today’s teens. This item is available as a Book or CD. Read More

Parenting the Love and Logic Way - NOW AVAILABLE!

Are you ready to play a powerful role in changing your community for the better? By facilitating this curriculum, you’ll be helping to increase the supply of young people equipped with the character, compassion and problem-solving skills essential for becoming good neighbors to all. Read More

Parenting the Love and Logic Way Workbook

To order additional workbooks, please call us at 800-338-4065.

Save 10% when you order 50 or more.
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Parenting with Love and Logic (Book)

Raise children who are self-confident, motivated, and ready for the real world with this win-win approach to parenting. Parenting with Love and Logic puts the fun back into parenting! This item is available as a CD or Book. Read More

Parenting with Love and Logic (Updated CD's)

Raise children who are self-confident, motivated, and ready for the real world with this win-win approach to parenting. Parenting with Love and Logic puts the fun back into parenting! This item is available as a Book or CD. Read More

Personalized Pearls from Love and Logic

With the Pearls of Love and Logic for Parents and Teachers personalized articles you will eliminate the need to spend hours creating your own newsletters and bulletins. Read More

Practical Applications of Love and Logic in Today's Classroom (DVD)

Betsy Geddes, Ed.D., will help teachers minimize student misbehavior, build positive relationships with kids, and much more! Read More

Put the Fun Back into Parenting (CDs)

Both first-time listeners and long-time Love and Logic fans will find themselves laughing and learning as they enjoy some of Jim's favorite stories. This item is available as a CD, or download. Read More

Put the Fun Back into Parenting (MP3 download)

Both first-time listeners and long-time Love and Logic fans will find themselves laughing and learning as they enjoy some of Jim's favorite stories. This item is available as a CD, or download. Read More

Putting Parents at Ease

Jim Fay shares the nine elements that guarantee successful parent-teacher conferences. Read More

Quick and Easy Classroom Interventions (CD)

In this audio, you will learn skills that allow teachers to take back control of the classroom through an escalating series of interventions. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Quick and Easy Classroom Interventions (MP3 download)

In this audio, you will learn skills that allow teachers to take back control of the classroom through an escalating series of interventions. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Raising the Odds for Responsible Behavior (MP3 download)

In this audio, Jim Fay teaches parents how to become a good model, create a high self-concept in the child, and much more!  Read More

Real World Parenting Solutions: That Prepare Kids for the Real World

This DVD teaches how to get respect and responsibility out of your kids, handle misbehavior in public, teach good decision-making and problem solving, and much, much more. Read More

Schoolwide Discipline Plan Without the Loopholes

A positive approach to school discipline by legendary education and parenting expert Jim Fay. Read More

Schoolwork/Homework Package - A 14% discount over retail

If you'd like some practical strategies for taking the battle out of motivating your child to learn...and helping them develop a strong sense of responsibility and character...you've got to have this package! Read More

Ser Padres con Amor y Lógica (Book)

Raise children who are self-confident, motivated, and ready for the real world with this win-win approach to parenting. Parenting with Love and Logic puts the fun back into parenting! Read More

Shaping Self-Concept

Jim Fay shows teachers and parents how to reach underachieving students by giving them hope and the willingness to keep going when the going gets tough. This live audio presentation gives adults techniques and skills for helping children become self-motivated and proud. Read More

Sibling Rivalry (CD)

Learn how to turn those inevitable sibling spats into priceless learning opportunities for your kids, and re-claim the peaceful family life every responsible and loving parent deserves. This item is available as a download or CD. Read More

Sibling Rivalry (MP3 download)

Learn how to turn those inevitable sibling spats into priceless learning opportunities for your kids, and re-claim the peaceful family life every responsible and loving parent deserves. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Simple Parenting Strategies: For Raising Great Kids in Complicated Times (DVD)

This DVD teaches multiple Love and Logic techniques from getting your kids to listen the first time you ask to avoiding power struggles over chores to helping your kids cope with bullying and teasing. Read More

Stand in My Shoes: Kids Learning About Empathy (Book) - NOW AVAILABLE!

This book teaches young children the value of noticing how other people feel. Empathy is the ability to notice what other people feel. Empathy leads to the social skills and personal relationships which make our lives rich and beautiful, and it is something we can help our children learn. Read More

Stress-Free Parenting Package - A 17% discount over retail

This package will give you all the tools you need to reduce stress in your life and start having fun with your kids again. Read More

Success with Severely Disruptive Youth (On-Demand Webinar)

(On-Demand Webinar) 17-year veteran of residential treatment for court-ordered youth, Jedd Hafer unpacks the most effective elements of the Love and Logic approach when dealing with tough kids and tough behaviors. One hour of Graduate-level credit is available. Read More

Success with Strong-Willed, Stubborn or Downright Defiant Kids (On-Demand Webinar)

(On-Demand Webinar) Spend the day with Dr. Charles Fay without leaving the comfort of your home or classroom as he weaves stand-up comedy with practical solutions that will change your life. One hour of Graduate-level credit is available. Read More

Tales of Successes with Kids (Book)

Stories of Love and Logic directly from parents and teachers that use it. Read More

Teaching with Love and Logic (Book)

Jim Fay and David Funk's truly positive approach and time-tested ideas and strategies will empower teachers to effectively manage classroom dynamics while bringing the joy back to teaching. This item is available as a CD or Book. Read More

Teaching with Love and Logic (CD)

Jim Fay and David Funk's truly positive approach and time-tested ideas and strategies will empower teachers to effectively manage classroom dynamics while bringing the joy back to teaching. This item is available as a Book or CD. Read More

Teen Package - A 15% discount over retail (Parenting Teens with Love and Logic in book form)

The products in this package give easy-to use techniques for upping the odds of raising respectful and responsible teens. Parenting Teens with Love and Logic is available as a CD or Book in this package. Read More

Teen Package - A 15% discount over retail (Parenting Teens with Love and Logic in CD form)

The products in this package give easy-to use techniques for upping the odds of raising respectful and responsible teens. Parenting Teens with Love and Logic is available as a Book or CD in this package. Read More

Thank God it's Monday!

Sally Ogden speaks to teachers and parents about what causes bad behaviors in children and what can be done about it. Read More

The Brain Friendly Classroom

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The Life Saver Kit (CD)

Six audio CDs in one package…A complete collection of great parenting techniques. Read More

The Love and Logic Classroom…More Cooperative, Higher Achieving Students

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The Love and Logic Tenth Anniversary Journal Collection

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The Paradigm of the Dead Horse Riders

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The Pearls of Love and Logic for Parents and Teachers

Parents and educators, this book is a quick reference guide for almost any topic pertaining to kids. Read More

Tickets to Success (Book)

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Toddlers and Pre-Schoolers (CD)

Parents are often astonished to find their sweet, innocent little baby has suddenly turned into a noisy, demanding—and sometimes out of control—toddler. Help is here! Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D., share the secrets to taking the frustration, stress, and confusion out of parenting a toddler. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Toddlers and Pre-Schoolers (MP3 download)

Parents are often astonished to find their sweet, innocent little baby has suddenly turned into a noisy, demanding—and sometimes out of control—toddler. Help is here! Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D., share the secrets to taking the frustration, stress, and confusion out of parenting a toddler. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Trouble-free Teens (CD)

This audio presents techniques to reduce or eliminate teenage rebellion and helps parents avoid typical teen and pre-teen power struggles. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Trouble-free Teens (MP3 download)

This audio presents techniques to reduce or eliminate teenage rebellion and helps parents avoid typical teen and pre-teen power struggles. This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Uncontrollable Kids

This book takes a hard-hitting look at our society's key role in creating uncontrollable young people and the no-nonsense steps we absolutely must take toward a genuine solution. Read More

When Love Is Not Enough

If you have a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder you will want to read this guide-book. Read More

Who Says Parenting Can't Be Fun?

We've collected some of our favorite stories by Jim Fay, Charles Fay, Ph.D., Foster W. Cline, M.D., and Betsy Geddes, Ed.D. and put them into one video. Read More

Winning the Homework Battle (CD)

Parental excitement, interest, and enthusiasm about the things a child does right are the key to getting a child to be more cooperative about doing homework. When parents use Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline's Love and Logic approach to homework, children end up seeing themselves as winners! This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Winning the Homework Battle (MP3 download)

Parental excitement, interest, and enthusiasm about the things a child does right are the key to getting a child to be more cooperative about doing homework. When parents use Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline's Love and Logic approach to homework, children end up seeing themselves as winners! This item is available as a CD or download. Read More

Winning with Diabetes (MP3 download)

Does your child have diabetes? Discover effective ways to raise happy, healthier children with diabetes and other chronic medical conditions. This item is available as a CD, or download. Read More

Classes/Seminars

10/02/2014 : Instructor Training - Learn to facilitate Love and Logic parenting classes in your area

Three days of intense training with the developers of Love and Logic® specifically for facilitators of the Love and Logic curricula. Read More

11/13/2014 : 9 Essential Skills for the Love and Logic Classroom® - Instructor Training

Facilitators of the 9 Essential Skills for the Love and Logic Classroom® will spend three intense days with the developers of the curriculum. Read More

12/15/2020 : Love and Logic: Keys to Helping Kids Cope with Divorce - A Love and Logic On-Demand Webinar

Enjoy a presentation with Dr. Charles Fay without leaving the comfort of your home or office as he provides an honest yet compassionate look at how to avoid making common mistakes that create lasting scars. Read More

12/15/2020 : Success with Strong-Willed, Stubborn or Downright Defiant Kids - A Love and Logic On-Demand Webinar

Enjoy a presentation with Dr. Charles Fay without leaving the comfort of your home or classroom as he weaves stand-up comedy with practical solutions that will change your life. Graduate-level credit available. Read More

12/16/2020 : Creating a Fear-Free and High Achieving Classroom - A Love and Logic On-Demand Webinar

In a webinar where the time flies and you learn through stories, Sally Ogden presents tons of practical strategies for handling difficult people, power struggles and bullying. Graduate-level credit available. Read More

12/17/2020 : Love and Logic Strategies for Kids with Hurtful Pasts - A Love and Logic On-Demand Webinar

This webinar will help parents, adoptive parents, foster parents, teachers and other professionals understand misbehavior that is often driven by hurt, and respond in effective ways. Read More

12/17/2020 : Success with Severely Disruptive Youth - A Love and Logic On-Demand Webinar

Spend the day with Jedd Hafer without leaving the comfort of your home or classroom. Graduate-level credit available. Read More

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Tips

How to Make Mornings Easier

Getting young children out the door on time each morning can be a hair-raising experience. Listed below are some tips for taking the mayhem out of the morning routine:

  • Have “practice mornings” when you’re not in a hurry. Try it on the weekend.
  • Make a guide for them by taking pictures of them doing all the things they need to do in the morning the posting them in a common area (IE on the refrigerator).
  • Set limits with enforceable statements. Here are some examples: “Breakfast will be on the table until the timer goes ding.”  “I give treats to kids who brush their teeth.”  “My car is leaving in just a little while. Will you be going with your clothes on your body or your clothes in a bag?”
  • Enforce these limits with plenty of loving empathy. This may mean taking your child to preschool in their pajamas or by expecting them to pay you for taking them to school when they are late. Hint: If you think you may need to take your child to school with their clothes in a bag, call the school and let them know ahead of time.


You can find more techniques in the Early Childhood Package.

Helping Children Learn Responsibility

At Love and Logic, we believe that the most powerful way of learning to make good decisions is by being allowed to make some small mistakes, experiencing the related consequences, and seeing that the adults around you love you even when you mess up.

Far too many parents rob their kids of such opportunities by making sure that their kids never make mistakes, bailing their children out of the consequences of their mistakes, or creating resentment by showing anger or rejection. Listed below is a process for avoiding these common mistakes:

  • Give your children plenty of opportunities to make decisions over small issues. Examples include giving your child a small allowance, allowing them to “choose” whether they remember to bring their lunch to school, or letting them decide whether they want to wear their coat or carry it.
  • Hope they make a poor decision. Children learn to make good choices by making poor ones and experiencing the consequences.
  • Let empathy and logical consequences do the teaching. Empathy is the key! By being sad for our kids rather than being angry at them, they are allowed to focus on their poor choice rather than our anger.
  • Give them the same decision-making tasks again. This communicates a strong message: “We believe that you’ve got what it takes to learn from your poor decisions."


You can find more techniques in the Ages 7-12 Parenting Package.

Helping Your Child with Homework

There’s no need to battle with your child over homework. Far too many parents feel that it’s their job to make their kids do all of their work. As a result, they find themselves in un-winnable power-struggles with their kids. Even sadder, their children begin to see learning as frustrating and bad thing.

Give yourself a break! Listed below are some guidelines for upping the odds that your child will view you as a homework ally…rather than a educational enemy:

  • Help only when your child truly wants it.
  • Help only as long as you are enjoying the process. As soon as anger and frustration enters the equation, you run the risk of having your child associate learning with these uncomfortable emotions.
  • Avoid creating unhealthy dependency. Tell your child, “I’m going to let you work on your own most of the time so that you will know that you can learn even when I am not sitting next to you.”
  • Help only as long as your child is working harder than you are.
  • Remember that it is far better for a child to get a poor homework grade than to believe that it’s their parent’s responsibility to force them to do their work.


You can find more techniques in the Schoolwork/Homework Package.

Putting an End to Arguing and Backtalk

Does it ever seem like children carry around a little book called, “Arguing for Fun and Profit?” To put an end to this draining behavior, experiment with repeating the same loving Love and Logic “one-liner,” regardless of what your child says. The key, of course, is to maintain a soft, empathetic tone of voice. Listed below are some examples:

“I love you too much to argue.”
“Probably so.”
“I know.”
“I bet it feels that way.”
“What do you think you’re going to do?”
“What did I say?”
“I don’t know. What do you think?”
“There’s no time for making kitten britches.” (Some of the most effective one-liners are really strange!)

You can find more techniques in the Ages 7-12 Parenting Package.

Training Resistant Kids to do Their Chores

At Love and Logic we teach that all children should make meaningful contributions to the family in the form of chores. Very small children can “help” their parents. As soon as they are six or seven, it’s time for them to begin doing their chores without reminders and without pay. Over the last three decades, we’ve developed the following three-part process for making this happen:

“A” stands for: Ask your child to do a chore you are sure they won’t, and give them a deadline for completion.

While this may sound silly, resistant children will only learn to do their chores if they learn that failing to do them will result in some rather sad consequences. When assigning the chore, don’t say, “Do it now!” Give the child a deadline instead. This gives you plenty of time to figure out what you might do if the child either refuses to do the chore or forgets.

“B” stands for: Be quiet. Resist the urge to nag, remind, or threaten.

“C” stands for: Consequences and empathy will do the teaching. Many parents are successful with saying, “This is so sad. I had to do your chores for you. Now I don’t have the time and energy to _____________.” Just fill in the blank with any privilege you typically provide for the child.


You can find more techniques in the Schoolwork/Homework Package.

Handling Sibling Rivalry

Just about every family with more than one child experiences sibling rivalry. If your kids ever argue with each other, complain about each other, or tussle a bit, it  means that they are normal. Listed below are some tips for saving your sanity and turning sibling rivalry into a wonderful learning opportunity for your kids: Stay out of the problem whenever possible. Avoid teaching your children that fighting with each other is a good way to get your attention. Say to them, “It looks like you guys have a problem that you need to solve. I’ll be happy to give you some suggestions about solving this problem when both of you are calm. Separate them if necessary. If your kids continue to hassle your eyes and ears with fighting, say, “I’m going to have to do something about this. We’ll talk when everyone is calm.” Expect them to replace the energy they drained out of you by doing extra chores, hiring a babysitter so that you can go out and relax, staying home instead of being driven to their friend’s houses, etc.

You can find more techniques in the Stress-Free Parenting Package.

Potty Training

Potty training doesn’t have to be a frustrating experience for either you or your child. The most important things to remember are:

  • Little children copy what they see their parents doing. That’s why it’s so important to let your tots see you using the potty…and having a good time doing so. (While this may be a bit embarrassing for some, the results are well worth the discomfort.)
  • Offer lots of choices.  For example “Do you want to use the upstairs potty or downstairs potty?” “Do you want to bring your favorite toy or leave it in your room?” The more small choices we give, the less resistant our kids will be.
  • Remain calm and empathetic when accidents happen. Punishment never works when it comes to potty training.
  • Allow your child to train at their own pace. Some kids are ready before they are two years old, others aren’t ready until they are around four. When we try to force the issue before our children are ready, frustration is all we will achieve.


You can find more techniques in the Early Childhood Package.

Driving Issues

On average, about 6,000 teens die behind the wheel each year. By following the suggestions below, you can dramatically increase the odds that your teen will not contribute to these sad statistics:

  • Offer your teen “good guy” auto insurance. This means that you pay the premium based on your teens maintaining a B average in school, achieving a flawless driving record, and in most states, having completed driver’s education. If your teen gets a ticket or declining grades, you can respond empathy, “This is such a drag. Your insurance is going to go up now. How do you think you’ll pay for the increase?”
  • Don’t buy your teen a car unless they are an ultra-responsible, nose-to-the grindstone kid. Even if this is the case, the car you buy should be an old one.
  • Remember that you have the right to restrict who rides with your teen an when your teen is driving.


You can find more techniques in the Teen Package.

Temper Tantrums

All young children have an occasional temper tantrum to see if their parents will give-in to their demands. The key to handling this noxious behavior is to remain calm and to prove to them that you aren’t going to back-down. Oftentimes, the most effective response takes advantage of humor. Experiment with the following options:

  • The next time your child has a tantrum, keep on truckin’. Walk away, turn the corner, and peek around it. Make sure your child can’t see you. There are few things more fun than seeing a small child who’s beginning to realize that their fits aren’t exciting enough to get them any extra attention.
  • Encourage the art form. When your child begins a meltdown, put a bored look on your face and say, “Nice tantrum, but I think you are losing your touch. Last time you screamed a lot louder and kicked your feet a lot harder. I’m really disappointed. Show me how it’s really done. Give me your best. Come on.”


You can find more techniques in the Early Childhood Package.

Eating Problems

Just about every child displays at least some finicky, resistant behavior when it comes to eating certain foods. Here are some quick tips for handling this in an effective way:

  • Remember that you can’t force your child to eat something they don’t want to. If you try, you’ll end up in an un-winnable power-struggle and run the risk of giving your child some long-term, unhealthy beliefs about eating.
  • Follow “Grandma’s Rule”: “You may have more of what you like as soon as I see that you’ve finished a bit of what you don’t like.”
  • Hope that your child experiments with going on a hunger strike. If they refuse to each what is served, say, “Maybe you will like what’s served for breakfast better.” Most kids need to experiment with going hungry before they realize that it’s smart to eat what is served.
  • Model good eating habits. Keep healthy foods in your home, and let your kids see you enjoying them.


You can find more techniques in the Ages 7-12 Parenting Package.

Bedtime

We at Love and Logic don’t believe in “bedtime.” Instead, we recommend “bedroom time.” Since we can’t force our children to sleep, and it requires far too much energy to keep them in their beds, we suggest that parents simply expect their children to be in their rooms at a certain time each evening. Here are some additional tips:

  • Create calming rituals before bedroom time. This means that you and your kids always have dinner, have a bath, read a story, etc. in more of less the same order each evening. This predictability is calming and comforting to kids.
  • When bedroom time arrives, say, “It’s bedroom time. You may do whatever you want in your rooms as long as you don’t cause a problem for anybody else in the house.”
  • Set a time when everyone wakes up in the morning, no matter what time they go to sleep. If, in the morning, they are tired from lack of sleep, offer empathy and sadness, “That’s so sad that you are tired. It’s going to be a long day. That happens to me when I stay up too late, too.” Send them off to school, take them on a boring shopping trip, etc… and let the consequence do the teaching.


You can find more techniques in the Early Childhood Package.

Disrespectful, Oppositional Behavior

When your child is disrespectful or oppositional, experiment with the following:

  • Avoid trying to reason, lecture, or threaten. Just repeat, “I love you too much to fight about this with you. I’m going to have to do something. We’ll talk later.
  • Remember that it’s ok for your child to “think” that they have gotten away with something. This gives you time to calm down and put together an effective plan.
  • Effective plans involve providing some type of consequence delivered in an empathetic…rather than angry…way.
  • One of the most effective strategies involves going on strike and negotiating for better parental working conditions. When your child asks for privileges, experiment with saying, “This is so sad, I do those sorts of things for people who treat me with respect.”


You can find more techniques in the Ages 7-12 Parenting Package.

Misbehavior in Public

Most children experiment with misbehaving in public to see if their parents will have what it takes to set and enforce limits. If your child has developed a habit of self-destructing at precisely the least opportune moment for you, experiment with Love and Logic’s “Strategic Training Session.”

  • The first step involves putting together a plan with help from a friend, relative or neighbor.This plan will involve leaving the child at home the next time you need to go someplace.
  • As a surprise to your child, the doorbell rings and this person arrives to watch them while you are out.
  • You say to your child, “This is so sad. I’m worried that you might have a fit in the store, so I asked Mrs. Smith to watch you while I’m gone. How are you planning to pay her for her time? If you don’t have any money, you may pay with toys.” Hint: The sitter you get should be extremely boring!
  • When you get home, hug your child and resist the urge to say, “I hope you learned your lesson.” Just tell your child that you love him and that you missed him.


You can find more techniques in the Early Childhood Package.

Nasty Attitude and Nasty Looks

When kids have a nasty attitude and cast nasty looks, such as rolling their eyes or huffing, try the following:

  • Minimize the anger and frustration your children can “pull” from you. Try using humor or encouraging the behavior. For example, when your child rolls their eyes, ask, “Sweetie…can you see your brains when you do that?”
  • If your child does what you want, don’t make a big issue out of the looks he or she transmits. Just say, “Thank you.”
  • If your child refuses to do what you ask, or this nasty behavior becomes chronic, teach in a very calm and loving way, that this behavior makes it harder for you to do the nice things you often do for them.


You can find more techniques in the Stress Free Parenting Package.

Kids Waking Parents During the Night

One of the most common questions parents of young children ask is, “How do we get them to stay in their own rooms at night?” Here are some suggestions:

  • Some parents decide to experiment with making their bed really uncomfortable when their kids crawl into it. They roll against their kids, put their armpits in their faces, pull the covers up over the heads, etc. They do this while pretending to still be asleep. Many children begin to realize that it’s a lot more comfortable to sleep in their own beds.
  • Other parents decide to run a little training session like the one described below:
     
  1. Set up an evening to deal with the issue. Say, in front of the child, “We need to get a good night’s sleep and can’t here. Let’s go stay at a hotel to get a good night’s sleep”.
  2. Call a pre-arranged babysitter to come over. Make sure they keep talking about how the parents need a good night’s sleep. And if the child wakes the sitter up, make sure the sitter does  not give in to the child’s request.
  3. The kids can pay the sitter with money or some toys.
  4. All of this is done without anger and in a loving manner.


You can find more techniques in the Ages 7-12 Parenting Package.

Avoiding Power Struggles

 

One of the most powerful strategies for avoiding power struggles involves giving choices within limits. It’s all about sharing control. We can either share control by giving small choices…or wait for our kids to fight us for it over big issues. Choices within limits are only effective when we remember to follow these guidelines:

  • For each choice give two options, each of which are ok with you. For example, “Do you want to do your chores now or in fifteen minutes?”
  • Give choices before your child gets resistant. If you give them afterwards, you reward resistance.
  • For each choice, give them no longer than 10 seconds to choose.
  • If they don’t choose, or they choose an option you didn’t provide, choose for them.
  • Only give choices that fit your value system.
  • Give 99% of your choices when things are going well.
  • When things aren’t going well, say, “You’ve been getting to make a lot of choices around here. Now it’s my turn.”

Some Love and Logic Examples of Little Choices
“Would you like to wear your coat or carry it?”
“Are you going to clean the garage or mow the lawn this week?”
“Will you be coming home by 8:00 or 8:30?”


You can find more techniques in Parenting with Love and Logic.

Grades

There’s no doubt that grades are important! Because they are so important, many parents make the mistake of displaying a lot of anger and frustration when their kids get poor ones. When this happens, kids spend more energy thinking about their parents’ anger and frustration than thinking about how their grades will affect their lives. Listed below are some quick tips for responding to poor grades:

  • Spend most of your energy commenting on the good grades. The key is to help your child feel so good about what they do well that they will be willing to work harder at what they don’t do well.
  • Display sadness over the bad grades. Experiment with saying, “This is so sad. I’m sure glad that I didn’t get that grade. The good news is that we are going to love you regardless of how well or poorly you do in school.”
  • Ask questions about the bad grades like “What are your thoughts about the grade?” or “Do you have any plan to deal with the subject?” or “What sort of help can we give you on this?”
  • If consequences for poor grades aren’t motivating your child to do their work, stop providing them. When this occurs, it means that there are other issues that need to be dealt with first. These include helping your child develop a better self-concept, teaching them responsibility through chores, helping them with learning problems or different learning styles, etc.
  • Remember that good character is more important for life-long success than good grades.


You can find more techniques in the Teen Package.

Different Parenting Styles

If you and your spouse have different parenting styles, there’s good news! Except in cases of abuse or neglect, our children can learn valuables lessons about real life from having parents with somewhat different approaches. That is…as long as we don’t fight with each other in front of them.

Fighting about different parenting styles does more damage to kids than having different parenting styles.

Experiment with the following tips:

  • Agree that you each will parent in your own way, but you will never criticize each other’s parenting techniques in front of the children. Your children need to know that you will back each other.
  • Be prepared for the kids to complain about the treatment by the other parent. Practice your response. Here is an example, “Well, Dad has his own ways. I hope you learn to work it out with him.”
  • Remember that there is nothing that messes kids up worse than learning that they can manipulate their parents against each other.
  • Allow your spouse to see you using Love and Logic and having more fun with the kids. If you refrain from forcing them to learn it, they’ll be more likely to want to.


You can find more techniques in Helicopters, Drill Sergeants, and Consultants.

Parenting Children with ADD and ADHD

Many parents of children with ADHD wonder what types of parenting techniques will work with their uniquely challenging child. Here are some common questions and answers:

Q: Can kids with ADHD really learn, remember, and behave?

A: ABSOLUTELY!

Q: What’s the secret?

A: Use the very same techniques proven effective with kids who don’t have ADHD.

Q: Are you kidding?

A: No! Here’s why. Children with ADHD have the very same behaviors as children who don’t have ADHD. They just display them far more frequently and intensely. For example, all kids fail to pay attention from time to time, forget what we ask them to do, argue, occasionally misbehave in impulsive ways, and experience bouts or excessive activity, etc.

Q: So, will Love and Logic work with my child with ADHD?

A: Yes! In our CD Calming the Chaos of ADHD we teach how to match the high frequency and intensity of their challenging behavior with a high frequency and intensity of Love and Logic techniques.

Q: So there’s hope?

A: Yes! As long as you don’t get tricked into believing that they’re incapable of learning and behaving.


You can find more techniques in Calming the Chaos.

Love and Logic Position Paper on the Use of Spanking as a Disciplinary Tool

The previous position we outlined on spanking in the book, Parenting With Love and Logic, unfortunately, was our thinking as of 1990 when the book was written. Since then our knowledge has grown. The world we live in changed, and we have developed new techniques that are far more effective than spanking.

For the record, our present stance on spanking is:

  1. There is no need for spanking.

  2. Spanking is counterproductive. It makes the adult into the "bad guy" instead of the bad decision becoming the culprit.

  3. Love and Logic techniques are far more powerful than spanking.

  4. Most kids would much rather have a spanking than have their parents use Love and Logic techniques such as delaying the consequence while the parent thinks over the problem, develops a clear head and then locks in the empathy before telling the child what the consequence will be.

  5. Since we now have such better techniques, why even consider, or waste our time with, spanking?

  6. A considerable amount of solid research is now available indicating the harmful, counterproductive results of using spanking as a disciplinary tool.


These six points, plus others, would make up the content of the chapter on spanking if we could write the book again, or when Pinon Press decides to update the book.

Please feel free to reproduce this letter and provide it for others who happen to be interested in the Love and Logic position on spanking.