Disrespectful, Oppositional Behavior
When your child is disrespectful or oppositional, experiment with the following:
- Avoid trying to reason, lecture, or threaten. Just repeat, “I love you too much to fight about this with you. I’m going to have to do something. We’ll talk later.
- Remember that it’s ok for your child to “think” that they have gotten away with something. This gives you time to calm down and put together an effective plan.
- Effective plans involve providing some type of consequence delivered in an empathetic…rather than angry…way.
- One of the most effective strategies involves going on strike and negotiating for better parental working conditions. When your child asks for privileges, experiment with saying, “This is so sad, I do those sorts of things for people who treat me with respect.”
You can find more techniques in the Ages 7-12 Parenting Package.