Concepts to be presented
- The Two Rules of Love and Logic
- Delayed or "Anticipatory" Consequences
- Using Empathy and Love and Logic One-Liners to Neutralize Arguing
- How to get more information about Love and Logic
- The Two Rules of Love and Logic
- The Delayed or "Anticipatory" Consequence
- Two Ways to Neutralize Arguing
- A Love and Logic catalog for each participant: Call us at 800-338-4065 to request FREE catalogs to use with your presentation.
- CD player
1. Open the presentation by asking the following questions:
- "Do you ever feel it's like pulling teeth to get your kids to take out the trash or do other chores around the house? How would it feel if you could walk out of here with some ideas for getting your kids to shed more sweat around the house than you do?"
- "Do your kids ever argue or talk back? How would it be if tonight you heard some simple tricks that can make you a black-belt in the art of out-arguing even the most challenging kid?"
- "Are you ready for some practical ideas for raising responsible kids who feel great about themselves? Are you ready to get started?"
2. Refer group to handout, The Two Rules of Love and Logic.
- Refer to the handout, The Two Rules of Love and Logic, and discuss the main points.
- Play the story of Defiant Roger found on track #6 of the audio CD, "Didn't I Tell You To Take Out the Trash?"
- Using the following steps, ask your group to discuss how the parent applied both rules of Love and Logic.
- Say to the group, "Turn to the person next to you and discuss how this parent applied the Two Rules of Love and Logic. Take about five minutes to do this, and then I'll ask you what you've come up with."
- After approximately five minutes, ask, "Who would like to tell me how this parent followed rule #1?" Discuss these ideas with the group.
- Finally, ask, "How about rule #2? Who has some ideas about how the parent followed this rule?" Discuss these ideas with the group.
3. Introduce the concept of Delayed or "Anticipatory" Consequences.
- Refer to the handout, The Delayed or "Anticipatory" Consequence, and discuss main points.
- Tell one of your own stories about its use.
4. Introduce the concept of "Brain Dead One-Liners."
- Ask the group, "Do your kids ever try to avoid consequences by arguing and manipulating? Do you ever find yourself spending too much time on this? Love and Logic parents neutralize arguing with the Brain Dead technique."
- Refer group to handout, Two Ways to Neutralize Childhood Arguing, and discuss main points.
- Emphasize the importance of avoiding anger and sarcasm while using this technique.
- Have the group pair off and practice. One person argues while the other goes brain dead and uses just one or two one-liners. Use the following steps for this activity.
- Say, "Let's get some practice so you can pull this off with your kids as soon as you get home. Turn to your partner and take turns with one of you arguing and the other using just one or two of the Love and Logic one-liners."
- Say, "Remember to go Brain Dead when your partner tries to argue with you. Just keep repeating the Love and Logic one-liner's you've chosen."
- Give your group at least five minutes to practice this skill.
5. Discuss how participants can learn more about Love and Logic.
- Provide each participant with your business card or a flyer for one of your Love and Logic classes.
- Provide a Love and Logic catalog to each participant.
- Refer participants to our catalog and point-out our toll-free number 800-338-4065, as well as our website address www.loveandlogic.com
- Make participants aware that Jim and Charles Fay can be hired to present to parents and educators.
For information on hiring Jim or Charles, call 800-338-4065.