Battles over reading, writing, and arithmetic too often drive a wedge between parents and their kids. Many times these ongoing conflicts give youngsters a distaste for learning and send parents to bed at night wondering, "What are we doing wrong with this kid?"
The following tips are dedicated to creating happier homes, where children are free to fall in love with learning and parents no longer dread homework hassles:
This is a time for your children to do their homework and for you to model the value of learning by enjoying a book. The best way to create a love of learning in your kids is to show them how much you enjoy it.
Research shows children are more likely to do their homework if they are given many small choices. For example:
There is nothing that creates more homework battles than parents who "help" when help is not wanted. Try asking:
Would you like some ideas on that, or would you like me to leave you alone?
Your child's desire to do it alone is a very healthy sign of independence and responsibility.
DO NOT focus on what your child does wrong! Allow your child to get help in those areas from their teachers. Successful parents spend 99 percent of their energy noticing what their kids do well. They say things like:
Too frequently, homework help turns into a homework battle. Smart parents back out of the helper role as soon as they sense conflict brewing. Try hugging your child and saying:
I love you too much to help if it means we are going to argue. I know this is really hard. Good luck.
Say the following to yourself over and over again:
This is my child's homework. Not mine!
There is nothing more destructive than stealing the struggle of learning by doing too much for your child. Each time they achieve something difficult on their own, their self-esteem soars and they are better prepared for the real world. Give these Love and Logic tips a try, and join thousands of parents who now have much happier, more responsible kids!
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