Do you know any kids who believe their future depends 100% on luck?
These do not tend to be the kids who work hard at things. It makes sense. If I don’t believe my work will be the thing to produce results, why would I work hard at anything?
I feel sad for these kids (and the adults they become) because they often feel helpless and are heard complaining about how “lucky” other people are while they themselves never seem to catch any breaks.
As Jim Fay says, “We want kids on the ‘Perspiration Plan’ NOT the ‘Las Vegas Plan’ “ (with no disrespect to our friends in the beautiful state of Nevada). In other words, we want them believing that hard work and good decisions will get them where they want to go instead of believing that their success and happiness depend on the unpredictable roll of the dice.
Kids who feel more healthy control over their lives (present and future) tend to be more responsible and make better choices about big-picture issues. It becomes a good cycle: work at something – see results – feel good – work more – see more results.
Kids who believe it’s all about luck don’t get to enjoy this cycle as much. They don’t tend to study very hard, prepare very much or handle adversity very well. As a result, they don’t get the good feeling of seeing their effort pay off. They can become pretty miserable feeling so helpless all the time.
So, what can we do to help steer our kids toward the perspiration plan and away from relying on “luck”?
2 Simple ideas:
These 2 simple strategies can make a huge difference in how kids view their future.
For more, check out Allowing Kids to Choose Success.