What makes Love and Logic work? Some believe it’s our strong emphasis on setting limits. They think that folks who are struggling with their kids just aren’t setting enough limits. Others believe that the power of Love and Logic has more to do with providing consequences for misbehavior. They think that those who’re unsuccessful with kids just need to do a better job of providing bigger and more powerful consequences.
Both of these viewpoints are right…and also wrong. Limits are critical, but we’ll never make them stick if we don’t have good relationships with our kids. Holding youngsters accountable for their misbehavior is also essential, but have you noticed that kids just don’t seem to care that much about consequences when they come from someone they don’t love and respect?
Everything rests on relationships. Limits gain their power from them, and so do consequences. So, if we want Love and Logic to have its full power, we’re wise to do plenty of the following:
We know that time spent building relationships will pay off better than any other investment. Thank you for reading and for sharing with educators and parents you know and love.
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