Veronica came to the fourth session of her Parenting the Love and Logic Way® class anxious to get some help with a festering problem with twelve-year old Jake. A recent growth spurt had left him taller than her, and now he believed that she no longer deserved his respect.
“I was so embarrassed! I saved money to take him and his little brother to the movies. You should have been there. He wouldn’t take his feet off the back of the seats in front of us, and he kept making loud and nasty remarks during the movie. Strangers were even telling him to settle down! I just didn’t know what to do.”
Two members of her Love and Logic class offered to help develop a very special plan for Jake. On their next “movie day,” sixteen-year-old Preston appeared at her door just before they were ready to leave for the theater. He was the extremely large son of one of these class members, and he did a masterful job describing his role to the rather bewildered Jake: “I’m here to watch you while your mom and your brother go to the movies. I heard that you wouldn’t listen to her last time. That’s not cool. How are you planning to pay me? I charge fifteen bucks.”
“Hey,” yelled Jake. “I’m not staying with you, and I’m not paying. I’m leaving!”
“That’s okay,” Preston calmly replied, “I get paid whether you stay or leave, and your Mom said that she could also give me your allowance over the next month as payment.”
Jake freaked! “Hey, that’s way more than fifteen bucks!”
Shrugging his shoulders, Preston agreed with empathy, “I know. That’s because when you pay later you have to include interest.”
Jake had no idea that this plan had been hatched at Mom’s parenting class. As a result of this little intervention, do you think he’ll be at least a bit more mannerly in the movies?
Listen to the audio, Hormones & Wheels for more ideas on how to stay on top of the ever-changing behaviors of teens… and tweens.