Toxic Birthday Parties - Dr. Charles Fay
Is it just me, or have children’s birthday parties gotten a bit out of hand? Am I a big meanie, or does it seem a bit outrageous to invite the entire kindergarten class, hire a caterer, and cap off the event with a trip to the amusement park?
Have times ever changed! I remember getting really excited when I had two friends over for my 7th birthday. We gorged on those sugar-filled straws (Pixie Stix), and we ran around the yard like wild animals. It was great!
I feel sad for kids who are raised to need massive amounts of excitement. For them, life soon feels pretty dull. Does all of this make it harder for really responsible parents who won’t, or simply can’t, keep up with the Joneses? Love and Logic parents focus on teaching their kids to value people for their kindness, their love, and their honesty-not the material things they can give you, the clothes they wear, the cars they drive, etc.
What’s more important? Is it more important to keep up with the Joneses or to teach kids healthy values regarding relationships? Give yourself a break! The next time you’re planning a birthday party, remember what kids want and need the very most - the closeness and love of their parents. Most people find it next to impossible to be close and loving when they’re trying to orchestrate a complex party for their kids.
Instead, take good care of yourself by following some guidelines: