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It’s All About Relationships

It’s All About Relationships

This year marks 45 years that Love and Logic has been supporting parents and teachers with principles and techniques that help them improve their relationships with the kids in their lives. Throughout those years, we have developed wonderful relationships with our customers, many of whom have been with us for many years, some even for decades. We greatly appreciate and value our relationship with you and look forward to continuing with you in the future. For us at Love and Logic, it’s all about our relationships with the parents, teachers, and others who are our customers.

What makes Love and Logic work for parents and teachers? Some believe it’s our strong emphasis on setting limits. They think that parents who are struggling with their kids, or teachers who are losing control of their students, just aren’t setting enough limits. Others believe that the power of Love and Logic has more to do with providing consequences for misbehavior. They think that those who’re unsuccessful with kids just need to do a better job of providing bigger and more powerful consequences.

Both viewpoints are right—and wrong. Limits are critical, but we’ll never make them stick if we don’t have good relationships with kids. Holding youngsters accountable for their misbehavior is also essential, but have you noticed that kids just don’t seem to care that much about consequences when they come from someone they don’t love and respect?

Everything rests on relationships. Limits gain their power from them, and so do consequences. So, if we want Love and Logic to have its full power, we’re wise to do plenty of the following with our kids or students:

  • Focus mostly on their strengths rather than their weaknesses.
  • Smile at them as often as possible.
  • Write them little notes or messages that tell them how much we adore them.
  • Greet them each day with a hug or a high five.
  • Make sure that they overhear us talking about how much we love them.
  • Deliver our Love and Logic with great empathy and sincerity.

We know that time spent building relationships pays off better than any other investment. Thank you for your support throughout the past 45 years! For tips on improving relationships with the kids in your life, check out our webinar, Home and School Strategies for Creating Respectful, Responsible Kids.

 

Thanks for reading!

Dr. Charles Fay