When it comes to strong-willed and defiant kids, it can be easy to get pulled into power struggles over things we cannot control. In this short video, Dr. Charles Fay helps us find and focus upon things we can control.
Find more solutions for dealing with defiance in my webinar. Success with Strong-Willed, Stubborn or Downright Defiant Kids.
This week a dad called about his teenage son. Because of sudden changes in his son’s behavior, the dad was worried that he had failed as a parent, even though...
Empathy is the cornerstone of our Love and Logic approach. It is the gift of a lifetime that will allow our children to learn wisdom from life’s trials and tribulations,...
At this time of year, many parents ask, “How do we handle bad grades?” When report cards or bad grades don’t reflect a child’s full potential, it’s easy to feel...
Educators have always played an essential role in the academic, emotional, and social development of our children. We want to express our heartfelt gratitude to teachers for their dedication, flexibility,...
Everyone is stressed these days, especially parents. Parenting during difficult times can be so overwhelming that simple, daily activities feel like insurmountable challenges. When everyone is feeling this way and...
Few things hit harder than hearing your child say, “I’m stupid” or express negative self-talk.Your heart drops. Your instinct is to fix it immediately. At first glance, the following parent...
Parents are constantly searching for the best way to raise respectful, emotionally healthy kids—without yelling, shaming, or constant power struggles. With so many approaches gaining attention, it’s easy to feel...
The Crisis Recently the negative effects of social media use by children and young teenagers received prominent attention in the news. Love and Logic has always recommended that parents exercise...
Since 1977, our mission has been to provide practical tools and techniques that help adults achieve respectful, healthy relationships with the children in their lives. Many people ask us, “What...
A significant number of the calls we receive come from grandparents seeking advice about their grandchildren. Some are helping their own adult children with parenting challenges, while others are raising...
Love and Logic was founded in 1977 by Jim Fay and Foster Cline. Over time, the principles and techniques of Love and Logic have revolutionized parenting and teaching strategies by...
There are few things more disheartening and frustrating for parents than seeing their children not take responsibility for their schoolwork and even failing to earn the sorts of grades they’re...
Dr. Foster Cline, the co-founder of Love and Logic with Jim Fay, had many brilliant insights that helped create the Love and Logic approach. His presentations over the years offered...
Why “Calm down!” usually backfires It is one of the greatest tragedies of humanity. Increasingly we find ourselves surrounded by upset children and adults. And upset people usually do not...
We’ve all been there. You’re trying to enjoy a nice meal—maybe it’s your first adult conversation in days—when the table next to you erupts into chaos. A spoon clatters to...
Kids of all ages face many situations that can create and feed anxiety. Like nearly all the challenges faced by parents, childhood anxiety can have many causes and possible solutions....
When Parenting Stress Leads to Anger and Guilt At times parents become so overwhelmed that they lose their temper even with their own kids. A mom once shared with me...
Every New Year’s Holiday brings renewed focus New Year’s resolutions, usually thought of as an opportunity for personal growth. Parents and educators sometimes include resolutions about how they want to...
Is it okay to hold kids accountable for their misbehavior, or is this an old-fashioned concept that no longer applies to raising kids in today’s world? We at Love and...
The holiday season is in full swing with the usual sources of stress, especially financial strains and high expectations among family members. For parents, one stress that always rises to...
Underachievement in kids is always a concern, and many parents are baffled by how to create the desire for learning in their kids. Love and Logic parenting techniques provide tools...
Now that Thanksgiving has passed, Black Friday and Cyber Monday are here, signaling that the holiday season is in full swing. Things will become increasingly frenetic for us, with shopping,...
Perhaps more than ever before, we are hearing from parents and teachers who are faced with the challenges of working with kids who have experienced some level of trauma. Love...
Gratitude is a sign of respectful, responsible behavior in kids and in adults. We also know that gratitude is good for our mental health and that practicing gratitude can reduce...
For over 48 years, Love and Logic has provided adults with practical tools for raising responsible, respectful kids. Our mission is simple yet powerful—help adults build loving, healthy relationships with...
I love the smell of burnt toast! That familiar aroma, coupled with the odor of overcooked coffee, always leaves a warm feeling in my heart and takes me back to...
When I was young, my parents gave me a weekly allowance—and taught me a valuable lesson about money management. They explained the rules: my allowance was mine to manage. I...
By now this school year, grades have started to appear. If your kids are bringing home disappointing grades, it’s normal to feel upset and respond with frustration, lectures, or anger....
For many parents, getting children to listen and follow through on requests is an uphill battle. But what if there was a way to transform your words so that your...
Parents often want to know how Love and Logic works and if it is effective and easy to use. Although the Love and Logic® approach might sound complex, it’s actually...
A popular quote about communication is, “The great enemy of communication is the illusion of it,” which published in Fortune magazine by William Whyte in 1950. Parents who reach out...
Patience has become a scarce commodity in our fast-paced, stressful world. During stressful times, patience often goes into hiding. It gets lost in the shadows. As our minds try to...
A new school year is a fresh start for children, parents, and teachers alike. As families and classrooms shift back into routines, it’s easy for adults to pour all their...
The reality about bullying is that we have limited control over the world and how our children are treated by it. At Love and Logic, we believe the best solution...
Sibling Conflict Is a Normal Part of Growing Up—But It’s Changing Sibling rivalry is a normal part of growing up—but it seems to have become more intense. Over the past...
Many young people grow up lacking the skills to face life’s challenges and end up making poor decisions. As parents and educators, we naturally want them to grow into adults...
Why Lecturing Often Backfires Have you ever noticed how naturally a lecture rolls off the tongue the moment you become a parent or teacher? It’s as if a part of...
Whether we are parents or teachers, many of us have struggled with strong-willed children. These kids seem to challenge our authority at every turn, especially when we mistakenly believe we...
Many people believe that to be effective, consequences must immediately follow a child’s misbehavior. This myth is rooted in the fear that the "teachable moment" will be lost if action...
Many parents wonder, “Why doesn’t my child show me love and respect?” or “Why does our relationship feel strained?” While no one intends to create dysfunction with their kids, many...
Divorce is a difficult and emotionally draining experience. For children, it can feel like their entire world is falling apart. Even during amicable separations, kids often struggle with emotional fallout...
Last week we explored the first three of the Seven Steppingstones of Trust for stepparents. Although these steppingstones are designed to help stepparents build trust with their stepchildren, they also...
Building Connection Through Time-Tested Strategies Stepparenting is a rewarding endeavor that can also be challenging. Successful stepparents understand that building trust with stepchildren requires enormous patience, humility, and empathy. Most...
Although kids just finished their school year, preparation for the next school year can begin now—with chores! At Love and Logic, we believe there is a link between kids doing...
In two recent blogs we explored two skills from the 9 Essential Skills for the Love and Logic Classroom® curriculum—Neutralizing Arguing and Empathy. Another critical skill for teachers to master is...
Because empathy is so important for using Love and Logic techniques effectively, it is one of the skills in the 9 Essential Skills for the Love and Logic Classroom® curriculum....
