Frequently Asked Questions

Whether you’re new to Love and Logic or a veteran of our approach, you’re sure to have questions. You’ve come to the right place! Explore our most frequently asked parenting questions and our answers below. Learn something new or confirm a hunch – there’s always an answer for questioning parents and if you don’t see what you’re looking for, email or give us a call at 800-338-4065.

General FAQs

Love and Logic is a philosophy of raising and teaching children which allows adults to be happier, empowered, and more skilled in the interactions with children. Love allows children to grow through their mistakes. Logic allows children to live with the consequences of their choices. Love and Logic is a way of working with children that puts parents and teachers back in control, teaches children to be responsible, and prepares young people to live in the real world, with its many choices and consequences.

Almost anyone will benefit from the Love and Logic approach. Our products especially help parents and teachers enjoy working with children through easy-to-use techniques. The Love and Logic approach helps children develop and grow in a healthy way, provides them with confidence and dignity, and teaches them how to become more responsible. The possibilities are limitless.

Love and Logic offers adults an alternative way to communicate with children. The Love and Logic techniques produce immediate results because the techniques are simple, practical, and easy to learn. The concepts behind Love and Logic place a heavy emphasis on respect and dignity for children and at the same time allows parents to grasp simple approaches instead of learning difficult counseling procedures.

The Love and Logic Institute, Inc. does not provide counseling or therapy services. If you need mental health assistance, we recommend you contact a local referral service. Although Love and Logic is not a substitute to therapy, it can be a powerful addition. The philosophy encourages healthy communication and gives people a glimpse of how a healthy family functions. It also provides easy-to-learn techniques that can be applied immediately.

It's never too late for parents to begin using the Love and Logic techniques regardless of whether the family has a teenager or a toddler. Of course the best time to start using Love and Logic is before the infant can walk. Our experience indicates that 8 - 9 months of age is a wonderful time to apply the techniques. Even if children don't understand spoken language, they do grasp the general ideas of what we say to them. No matter what the age of the child, the best time to start Love and Logic is now.

The best way to share the Love and Logic message is to hand the person one of our audios and say, "could you use some laughs?" The powerful content will allow them to discover for themselves how the techniques can help build a healthy relationship with children. We have two great introduction sample audios that are free to download.

Our MP3 Download: When Your Spouse Has a Different Parenting Style, addresses the issue of spouses who differ in methods of raising children. Our book: Grandparenting with Love & Logic, will help ensure that the Love and Logic techniques you are using are also used by your children's grandparents.

To schedule Jim Fay, or to find out when he will be in your area, call Monica at 800-338-4065.
To schedule Charles Fay, or find out when he will be in your area, call Monica at 800-338-4065.
To schedule Foster W. Cline, M.D., call Bonnie Burnett at 303-979-7525.
To schedule Jedd Hafer, or find out when he will be in your area, call Monica at 800-338-4065.

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Workbooks for Parenting the Love and Logic Way Curriculum are now available in Spanish. Parenting with Love and Logic (Ser Padres con Amor y Logica) is also available in Spanish. We currently do not have plans to translate additional audio and video materials to other languages. In our experience, translating Jim and Charles' style of humor and voice inflection to other languages dilutes the power of the message and diminishes the effectiveness of the techniques.

Our exceptional customer service staff is trained to help you select specific materials related to your issues. All of our products carry a satisfaction guarantee. If you are not satisfied, please call 800-338-4065 and we will assist you.

All Love and Logic materials are copyrighted and may not be reproduced in any manner, including placement on the Internet. Please help us preserve the integrity of the Love and Logic philosophy. Tell people as much as possible about Love and Logic, but please do not copy, distribute, or create new materials.

If you have questions, please email or write to:
The Love and Logic Institute, Inc.
Attn:Kelly Borden
2207 Jackson Street
Golden, Colorado 80401-2300

The Love and Logic approach captures powerful techniques in psychology and incorporates them into easy-to-use techniques. Modifying the material lessens the powerful content and complicates the simple methods taught. The concepts behind the Love and Logic philosophy address basic human needs. These needs encompass inclusion, structure, control and affection and exist in all groups and cultures.

We have a DVD available with closed captioning.
How to Discipline Kids without Losing Their Love and Respect

As of June 14, 2013 our web site can now accept international orders. Please contact us at (800) 338-4065 if you have any issues or would like to place an order over the phone.

Add the items you wish to purchase to your shopping cart by clicking the "Add to Cart" button. Next, either click on the "View Cart" link located on the left side of the website, or click on the shopping cart icon located in the top right corner of the website and click the "Go to Shopping Cart" link. Finally, click on "Discount Codes" input the coupon code and click the "Apply Coupon" button.

We recommend the following products for helping children with special needs:
Calming the Chaos
Angry and Oppositional Students
Love and Logic Solutions for Kids with Special Needs

The science of intrinsic motivation is complex, involving a wide array of factors. One of the most important, yet perhaps the most ignored, involves the following truths:

  • Every child is born with a unique temperament and set of gifts.
  • We can parent well, but we cannot change the essence of who they are.
  • When we encourage them to focus on their gifts, this creates high motivation.
  • When we obsess over their weaknesses, we create frustration and apathy.

To learn more about how to motivate kids, check out our product Success with Underachievers.

The first thing to remember is that the child’s report card is the child’s… not ours. While it’s easy to get down on ourselves when kids perform poorly, it’s very important to our mental health and theirs to remember the following:

  1. We can’t learn for kids.
  2. We can’t control every action they take or decision they make.
  3. Many highly successful people struggled with grades as children.
  4. When we encourage them to focus on their gifts, this creates high motivation.
  5. When we obsess over their weaknesses, we create frustration and apathy.

Rather than fighting with kids about their grades, consider reading From Bad Grades to a Great Life!

Parents' FAQs

The following products provide a foundation for learning about the general concepts and techniques of Love and Logic:
Avoiding Power Struggles With Kids
"Didn't I Tell You To Take Out The Trash?!"
Four Steps to Responsibility
Helicopters, Drill Sergeants and Consultants
Love and Logic Solutions
Love Me Enough to Set Some Limits
Parenting With Love and Logic

If you are considering several of the items above, your best option would be the Lifesaver Kit, containing the following CD's:
Helicopters, Drill Sergeants and Consultants
Four Steps to Responsibility
"Didn't I Tell You To Take Out The Trash?!"
Avoiding Power Struggles With Kids
Raising the Odds for Responsible Behavior
Love Me Enough to Set Some Limits

We have several one-day events across the United States. Please see our event schedule for locations and dates. If we are not in your area or the date does not work for you, check out our online parenting class you can take from anywhere.

Educators' FAQs

Purchase orders are welcome!

There are four different ways to submit a purchase order. Please select only one of the methods below so your order is not duplicated.

Order online and upload your PO

Fax your PO to: 800-455-7557

Email your PO to: cservice@loveandlogic.com

Mail your PO to: 2207 Jackson St, Golden, CO 80401

To ensure your order is processed as quickly as possible, please include the following important items when submitting a purchase order.

A contact name and phone number, in case we have any questions

An authorized signature

A facilitator ID number (if your PO includes curricula workbooks)

The name, address, phone number and email address of the person who will be facilitating the curriculum (if your PO includes curriculum - i.e. 9 Essential Skills for the Love and Logic Classroom®, Parenting the Love and Logic Way® or Love and Logic Early Childhood Parenting Made Fun!®

To start Love and Logic in your school, pick the best and most enthusiastic teachers to voluntarily study the 9 Essential Skills for the Love and Logic Classroom® Curriculum. The curriculum includes instructional videos, step-by-step facilitator guide, participant workbooks, Quick and Easy Classroom Interventions (audio), Teaching with Love and Logic (book or audio), a Love and Logic Tote Bag, and one-on-one direct access to Jim Fay and Charles Fay, Ph.D., for support questions.

Suggested guidelines:

Don't train all staff members the first year.

Don't require all staff members to adopt Love and Logic. This can be the demise for any program.

Introduce the program to staff by allowing everyone to view the first part. Use your own judgement as to when to stop the tape during the first presentation, and then announce that further training will be on a voluntary basis.

Create a study group made up of your most enthusiastic teachers. These are the staff members who should receive a Study Guide so that they can continue to work together in the study of Love and Logic during the first year. Some schools have required that teachers apply to the building committee for admittance into the study group. Make the study of Love and Logic an honor, not a mandate.

Create additional study groups as other staff members catch the enthusiasm generated by those using the curriculum.

Trainers' FAQs

We no longer offer certification for our instructors of our parent training curricula. The design of the curricula allows trainers to present successfully without special training.

We no longer offer certification for our instructors of our training curriculum, 9 Essential Skills for the Love and Logic Classroom®. The design of the curriculum allows facilitators to present successfully without special training.

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