Big Ears

Big Ears

Last week’s blog stressed the importance of letting kids hear us talk within earshot about hard work and saving money. Kids seem to hear and remember best when they think they are not supposed to be listening. This can be a powerful teaching technique, but it can also backfire if we are not careful.

Six-year year-old Paul was at the family reunion when he asked his uncle if he could see the moths in his billfold. “What do you mean?” asked his Uncle Fred. “My dad told my mom that you were so tight that if you ever opened your billfold, moths would fly out, and I want to watch,” replied Paul.

We all know where Paul picked this up. Kids remember all the things they hear through eavesdropping, while they often don’t listen well to the things they are told directly.

Unfortunately, Paul has another problem. He has overheard his parents criticizing his teachers and the school. That could be the reason he believes that his bad grades are not the result of his lack of effort and that he doesn’t have to do what the stupid teacher says.

Regardless of how we feel about the school or the teacher, it is real bad business to say it where our kids can overhear it. Better we send a consistent message that achievement comes through hard work and listening to the teachers. When you are letting kids hear your discussions, be vigilant about what you are sharing with them in this way.

Thank you for your support during this past year, which has been difficult for everyone. From everyone at Love and Logic, we wish you a very Happy New Year!


Thanks for reading!

Jim Fay

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